Komen Membina

Bila jumpa kawan lama ke, sedara lama tak jumpa ke, I can always predict their first comment,

"Kurusnya kau!"
" Why so thin , meh?"
" You've grown so small!"

Diselit pula dengan kata-kata penambah perisa,

" Hang sakit eh?"
" Hang diet eh? Tak baik diet-diet sangat nih"
" Are you not happy, nowadays?"
" Keje kuat sangat kot"

Ditambah pula dengan perbuatan yang tidak diminta seperti,

1. Menambah lauk/nasi on my full plate
2. Feeling up my arms to show me how allegedly bony I am.
3. Urging me to tambah lagi, when I already had enough and full.
4. Try to pinch my waist to see if got lemak or not. ( Gile melampau)

Tu la masyarakat kita, kurus salah, gemuk pun salah.
Bila orang tu berisi sikit, mula la keluar komen, " Wah, dah gemuk kau ni skarang ye?"
Whaa?
What is it?
 Is it a way to feel good about themselves? Is it a self defense mechanism of some sort?
Why can't we just be nice and say," You look wonderful today!"
And keep all the unwanted, komen yang tidak membina to ourselves.

Satu lagi, suka la kaitkan makan as a way out.
" Makan apa ek untuk gemuk?"
" Makan apa ek untuk kurus?" (Oh, the irony!)
" Makan apa ek untuk kurangkan blood pressure?"
" Makan apa ek untuk rendahkan cholesterol?"

Don't they get it?
You don't eat your way out of your predicament.
You work it.

I'm lucky enough I'm still breastfeeding my baby that I'm loosing extra 500 calories per day. Itu tambah ngan 5 days of workout, work and being a mom. It's hard but hard work pays off.
But that's the point. Work it.
And make it fun while you're at it.

And after all that work, it's no fun when people poke and prod at you telling you there's something wrong with you.
Come on lah , it's really not nice.

Be more positive, people.
If you want people to be nice to you,you be nice to them. Basic common sense, kan?

So why not we all change? Instead of finding something bad to comment about people, find something good to say.
Komen membina.

Tak susah rasanya :)